digibutter.nerr

[Legendary Mashine]

If you're going to flame me for being emo, or say "you should be yourself and be happy! :D :D :D!!!!" then GTFO of the thread. :D K?

I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend before. I've never been kissed, or even held hands. I've never been asked out, and the three times I've asked different guys out they've all turned me down. And pretty much no one talks to me because of it. I've lost all my friends because of not having a boyfriend.

Some of them ditched me purposely, like "oh she's a nerd who can't get a boyfriend, let's not talk to her anymore," and I'm not going to talk to them again, because they're crappy friends I don't need.
But the ones that are still good people kind of ditched me unintentionally, because they're busy with their boyfriends and their social lives and their jobs, and when they DO have time to hang out with me we don't have anything to talk about anymore since they have friends and jobs and I'm still sitting at home playing Mario all day.

It's not that I feel incomplete being single. It's almost like, I'd love to be single if it were by choice. I'd have loads of self-esteem being single by choice. But the fact that I'm single because I can't score anyone is what makes me loathe myself. And the fact that I'm fat doesn't help (it doesn't help me get a boyfriend, AND it doesn't help me stop loathing myself.)

I just really need to find someone, anyone. Even if I just go to the movies with them once, and kiss them once, and then dump them. Just so that I'm finally single by choice, and not just by being rejected all the time. At least then people will like me again because I'm capable of getting a boyfriend. And I'll loathe myself a little less.

So I need some advice from those of you nerrs with boyfriends. And no "just be yourself and be happy!" advice, like I said before, because I've been doing that for the past three years and it's not working.
Should I go up to one of my acquaintances that's actually popular, and ask her to set me up with anyone that'll take me? What else is there to do, short of walking around wearing a sign that says "WILL PUT OUT FOR ANYONE WHO'LL DATE ME FOR FIVE MINUTES"?
(And I really will. I'll put out in a heartbeat if someone just wanted to go out with me once.)

[Frozenwinters]

I have no advice. D:

[Yellow Magikoopa]

Uh...

Well...

Move? It sounds to me like you live in a terrible group of peers. ._.

[Legendary Mashine]

[Yellow Magikoopa]

[Goomba]

I personally find highschool dating to be overrated. I'm not looking for anyone, and people accept it. That is to say, if some hot chick asks me out, I'd comply in a heartbeat.

If your friends can't cope with the fact you're single, then they are not good friends. They shouldn't expect you to be anything other than you. Everyone's different, they need to accept that.

Someone will come along, don't worry, theres plenty of fish in the sea. Don't feel discouraged, because I was about something different (it was Digibutter related). So what did I do? I took hold of my discouragement, and I threw it away. It's just a small phase you are going through, you'll feel better eventually.

Life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

[Shrowser]

Good advice, Goomba. I agree. Just wait to find the right person. If all else, fails, I'll be your boyfriend.

[Super Postman]

Relationships are pretty tricky. I myself did not get my first kiss until Last year when I got lucky with my Girlfriend, Myself overweight I understand how hard it is to get someone, not just on your peers limitations but on the limitations you set on yourself, Now to an extent you should if its important to you try for a meaningful relationship. This means alot of waiting, and albeit even alot of effort. Sulking in your dispare will get you nowhere no matter how beautiful you are, ( and trust me everyone is beautiful in a way shape or form)

Know your convictions, what is important to you in a relationship. And then build off that. Know what you will compromise and what you will not compromise. this is not setting conditions for a dating prospect, this is setting your rules.

Ask, Alot of guys and Gals ( being general here) are taken but there are a variety of people you would never expect to be single, you may face a deal of rejection but you know at the end of the day you may have left an impression on someone, that someone may take you up on your offer later on, Or if you are really lucky someone will agree to it.

On a side note, Serious relationships are alot of give and take, the object is not to give or take too much, think of it as a karma system, try to put equal parts in for the best results.

Yarg sorry Chunks gets carried away some times.

[Popple]

You know what, I don't care what you say. Cheer the *crag* up. I'm almost in the same boat as you, but I don't have friends that ditch me. I'm the crazy kid and everyone knows this. I gained respect for pulling some of the best stunts ever and making these teachers look like they don't know a damn thing. You have to assert you individuality to get noticed, that's how I got a "date". No I'm not explaining why it's in parentheses, but it involves time problems and the loss of phone numbers. If you hide int he shade all the time being depressed then no one is going to like you.

Screw you jack ass friends, keep your good ones.
Screw relationships.

You know what, I'm going to go on another rant.

I can't believe you actually want to force a relationship. And a high school one no less. Blood hell girl, are you insane! First off, most are never very good in the first place. And you want to force one. NO. Big *crag* NO. That is not how it works. How it works is this.

Popular Boy: HEY I LEAK TEH FOOTBALLZ! WE SHULD DAT CUZ WE LUK COOLZ

Popular Girl: K IMMA SLUT

That is how it works at my school for about %75 of the people, and those are your jack ass friends. The rest of your friends probably found someone who actually likes them, so good for them. here's some simple questions to ask yourself.

Does anyone even know my *crag* name

Does anyone even know how I'm *crag* like

Are you willing to completely express your entire personality and not *crag* care what other people think of you

If you answers no to two or more of those questions, shut up.

You have to show the world who you are and what you stand for. You can't let the majority's opinion hold you back. *crag* the majority. They are just liked by everyone because they play "teh footballz" and mummy and daddy bought them a nice car. They don't get to have an opinion of you are, hell they probably don't get to have a C average.

K, I'm done.

You and your forced relationships sicken me.

SICKEN ME

(Also, every single thing I just said is based upon my school. So if it doesn't help, go me.)

[Black Yoshi]

@Popple, you sound just like one of my friends, right down to the crazy stunt thing.

And as for the whole relationship thing, I know how that is. In my school, you have to be a drunk-ass stoner or a superjock to be popular with the "cool" kids. I just stick with the people who aren't jackasses. Not to sound like a sitcom parent, but just having a group of friends is better than only having a bf/gf. I mean, I'd spring for an opportunity to have a girlfriend, but I am fine without.

Also, having the popular kids kiss your *crag* for homework help is so worth it.

[Popple]

I don't even want a GF now since I'll probably move out to California in a few years anyway. And no not to fulfill my dream of singing show tunes on Broadway! You know damn well that's where almost every video game company is moving to.

[Yoshio]

[Legendary Mashine]

Ugh...

It's not just a few people that're ditching me for not having a boyfriend. It's everyone.

Even adults think there's something wrong with me. Even my parents. Around here, everyone has been in a relationship by the time they're 16, and the few who don't are usually the kids with problems. Like, real problems, like they're mentally retarded or something.

I have authority figures instructing me that if I don't want to be bullied constantly then I have to force a relationship. What the hell. Is it just where I live? Is it everyone in the state that's crazy? It's like several thousand against one, and I can't take being the one anymore.

Seriously, the last guy I asked out was a nerr that everyone in the school makes fun of, and he's like, "I'd rather just keep going out with my internet girlfriend than go out with you." Even though he HAS gone out with my morbidly obese, also super-nerrdy friend before, and liked her. And I've never been anything else than my zany self in front of him. And THIS is what REALLY makes me feel like it's me and not them.

I just can't take it anymore.

[Zelnor]

I'm fifteen and have as much sex appeal as a car crash, let alone that I can't imagine ever having sex. How does that go for you ? Let alone that I'm my class' favorite target for harassment and bullying, leading to a rumor that had me being interviewed by the head of secondary and the schhol director whether I was going to go on a homicidal rampage in the school or not. At least I have the brains for a good life and job. Let's just hope mz laziness and lack of physical strength doesn't interfer with it.

In short, Jolene, I know how you feel, but - The earths' gonna blow anyway. Mankinds' gonna die out anyway, we're gonna die anyway. and yet, for millions of years, we have bothered to stand up in the morning and get on with it. So I propose we follow that leitmotif of mankind.

[Sam]

wow...

you're just like my brother.

My brother is 16, and he always calls himself, ugly, stupid, and everybody hates him.

He is not ugly, but he says that because he can't score. But he never even tried. He just says hes stupid. and if nobody knows him, nobody hates him.

I feel bad for him because he can't do anything about it. Our stupid mom put him in a damn homeschool where he is so lonely and can't have any friends. Not only that, but my Mom has NO KNOWLEDGE at ALL TO BE A DAMN TEACHER.

If your friends don't accept you, leave them alone, get new friends. (its hard, I know) or you can always talk to them about it or whatever. Your "scoring" years aren't over. You may score in college.