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Mantis15
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 Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 8:07 pm
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So I told my friend about the girl I wanna ask out and he decides out of the blue he wants to ask her out. I asked him why and he never gave me a straight answer. I told him he just wants to ask her out because I wanted to.
I also need your help digibutter. I need help asking her out because I want it to be right. The problem is we've only talked for a bit and exchanged greetings in the hall. When I did talk with her, she's funny, cute, nice, and has lots of things in common with me. So I need advice from you guys. |
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Small Sammer Guy
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| Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 8:15 pm
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All I'm gonna say it, don't overdo it. Just be yourself and don't be shy. Find the right time to ask her out.
Do it in person, NEVER do it over the phone. And remember, don't be TOO flirty with her. Continue to be friends until the time is right.
And when you DO go out with her, I can give you some advice, because I know what to do from experience (I'm NEVER going to have another GF until college... <.< ) |
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Goomba
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| Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 8:15 pm
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Ah girl issues, eh? Well lets see... I have never had a girlfriend (mostly because the one girl I like has a boyfriend...), but I cans till try to help you.
You could probably ask her out over AIM. Ask her if she has AIM, because you think you don't talk enough during the day. Become better friends with her over that and you could ask her out over AIM before your friend.
Remember to not rush it.
Hope I helped, man! |
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Small Sammer Guy
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| Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 8:21 pm
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| Goomba wrote: | | You could probably ask her out over AIM. Ask her if she has AIM, because you think you don't talk enough during the day. Become better friends with her over that and you could ask her out over AIM before your friend. |
Sorry to say this but that wont' work. Think about it, if you ask out someone over the internet/phone, what will she think of you? Have you ever thought of that? She could think your so shy and scared to do it in person. Then the relationship could not work well if some other guy steps in. You have to be...yourself but brave.
Not rushing things is important too, I'll give you that. Good luck Gumshoe |
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Goomba
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| Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 8:24 pm
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| Small Sammer Guy wrote: | | Goomba wrote: | | You could probably ask her out over AIM. Ask her if she has AIM, because you think you don't talk enough during the day. Become better friends with her over that and you could ask her out over AIM before your friend. |
Sorry to say this but that wont' work. Think about it, if you ask out someone over the internet/phone, what will she think of you? Have you ever thought of that? She could think your so shy and scared to do it in person. Then the relationship could not work well if some other guy steps in. You have to be...yourself but brave.
Not rushing things is important too, I'll give you that. Good luck Gumshoe |
This is true, but it helps with shyness on both parts... Hmm... Its one of those things where both parts work... |
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Mantis15
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| Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 8:26 pm
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@SSG: I'll try to. The only problem is school is almost over and I don't know if she's going to the same high school.
@Goomba: I'll ask if she has MSN so we can talk more. But I'll have to follow SSGs advice of asking her out IRL instead of over the phone or online.
Thank you both for the advice |
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Small Sammer Guy
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| Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 8:41 pm
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no problem, glad i could help ^^ |
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| The Chaos Heart wrote: | Petey, just forget about love. It only makes one weaker. Look at yourself. You can't get her out of your mind. It's sickening to let someone have that much control over your actions. All relationships end in pain, or you must give up what you value most to achieve, "love".
Take my advice, don't bother with love. Learn to control your hormones and emotions, like I have. Whenever a member of the oposite sex that may have been cute walks by me, I feel nothing for them. A number of dashingly gorgious people have asked me out, and I simply reply no. Not all these people were airheads either. I fact, some of them were what they would call, "firends", though I consider nobody a friend.
However, f you truly want to walk down this dark and trecherous path, then heed this advice. Don't go up to a girl and try and woo them. Become their friend first. Girls hate it when guys meerly waltz up and try to act "cool" in an attempt to have a relationship with them. Start out slow. A good way is to compliment her once or twice a day, and then go back to your life. Slowly, she'll start to think of you differently. Then, after maybe a year or two of good friendship, give her the news. If it is ment to be, you'll find out. If not, well, you have another friend! 
Though, friends can be just as much of a lyability as overs can... |
I stand by this statement. |
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CFH
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| Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 10:26 am
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| The Chaos Heart wrote: | | The Chaos Heart wrote: | Petey Gumshoe, just forget about love. It only makes one weaker. Look at yourself. You can't get her out of your mind. It's sickening to let someone have that much control over your actions. All relationships end in pain, or you must give up what you value most to achieve, "love".
Take my advice, don't bother with love. Learn to control your hormones and emotions, like I have. Whenever a member of the oposite sex that may have been cute walks by me, I feel nothing for them. A number of dashingly gorgious people have asked me out, and I simply reply no. Not all these people were airheads either. I fact, some of them were what they would call, "firends", though I consider nobody a friend.
However, f you truly want to walk down this dark and trecherous path, then heed this advice. Don't go up to a girl and try and woo them. Become their friend first. Girls hate it when guys meerly waltz up and try to act "cool" in an attempt to have a relationship with them. Start out slow. A good way is to compliment her once or twice a day, and then go back to your life. Slowly, she'll start to think of you differently. Then, after maybe a year or two of good friendship, give her the news. If it is ment to be, you'll find out. If not, well, you have another friend!
Though, friends can be just as much of a lyability as overs can... |
I stand by this statement. |
Fix'd for the first word as we're talking somebody else.
Also, telling that "don't bother to love" thing to everyone is just potentially an attempt to make nobody love anymore. Do you realize how much of the world's happiness does that ditch?
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Yoshi
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| Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 12:32 pm
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Tell her you're getting girl advice from a forum, and see how she reacts.
Oh, and try slipping on the ground, and falling a little, and see if she helps you up. Then go for it the next day.
Personally, I like the first Idea. |
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Mantis15
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| Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 2:17 pm
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Thanks for more advice. Now I should get advice from some on the girls on this forum so I can get advice from another perspective. |
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Ohh, THAT makes sense!
Tyler
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| Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 2:56 pm
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| Detective Gumshoe wrote: | | Thanks for more advice. Now I should get advice from some on the girls on this forum so I can get advice from another perspective. |
Keep talking to her and eventually you'll end up asking her out. I fell in love with my current girlfriend, it was almost like we were going out BEFORE we were going out. So I just asked her out, it was easy, and probably one of the best decisions I've made in my life. <3 |
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Larry Koopa
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| Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 2:58 pm
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Eherm. It is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to early for you to ask her out. WAY TO EARLY. Now, I know you just can't WAIT to do it, but you hardly KNOW her. What you do is hint, talk to her more then usual, ask her if she would like any help with anything, and then, when the time is right, you ask her out. |
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Mantis15
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| Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 3:03 pm
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| Larry Koopa wrote: | | Eherm. It is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to early for you to ask her out. WAY TO EARLY. Now, I know you just can't WAIT to do it, but you hardly KNOW her. What you do is hint, talk to her more then usual, ask her if she would like any help with anything, and then, when the time is right, you ask her out. |
I know it is but I've only have 19 days left of school and I don't know if she's going to the same high school. It's strange though when we talk, it's like we've been friends for a while. |
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Larry Koopa
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| Detective Gumshoe wrote: | | Larry Koopa wrote: | | Eherm. It is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to early for you to ask her out. WAY TO EARLY. Now, I know you just can't WAIT to do it, but you hardly KNOW her. What you do is hint, talk to her more then usual, ask her if she would like any help with anything, and then, when the time is right, you ask her out. |
I know it is but I've only have 19 days left of school and I don't know if she's going to the same high school. It's strange though when we talk, it's like we've been friends for a while. |
Then stop wasting time, and get to know her. Here's the plan:
18th - 16th Day - Talk to her more then usual.
15th Day - Know more about her. Ask her questions about life, what is her favorite subject, hobby, food, etc.
14th Day - Start to help her out on stuff, Talk to her allot.
13th - 11th Day - Talk to her more then usual.
10th Day - Ask her what school is she going to next, if she doesn't know, tell her to ask her parents.
9th Day - If she does know, tell YOUR parents that you want to go to that school. If she doesn't know, hopefully you will get your answer today.
8th Day - By now, she should know whats going on with you, so ask her out. She may say not today, another day, if so, plan your day. |
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