now crump you must look upon digi as any other organized version of humanity. the history of civilization on the net parallels that of human history, half caught in darkness and ignorance and half caught in the continuation of old ways, but isolated none the less. this split occured with the fall of the web-fourm empire, similar to the rome of old. while some take the content that was popular at this split and evolve it, others refuse this content for it caused the split in the first place. we are eastern civilization, they are the west. we will meet again on common grounds some day, but that is not this day.
and to clarify, by web forum empire i mean the mass popularity of web forums and them being the dominant form of social interaction and development. today they have been edged out by less structured and more peer based systems
Facebook is for people with self-esteem issues. Personal communications and friendships -especially those on the web- should be confined to a group of about 20 tightly knit people who share a common goal or interest but differing opinions and personalities (or a bunch of screwheads like us). Any larger and the opinions differ too widely and tempers flare (or trolls and bronies begin to seep into the group). If the group is too small though, conversations don't receive enough life and the group dies.
I don't know why I said all of that, but whatever.
Facebook is primarily for keeping up with "real" or "personal" friends; those who you know and interact with in real life. You only interact with people who you haven't met in real life anonymously for entertainment purposes; you might share a common interest, or you may simply feel like trolling someone else, but in either case the discussion exists only to alleviate boredom. Common interests are also not what friendships should form over; they are simply discussion starters. Real friendships evolve over connecting with others on the basis of their personalities and spending time with eachother in the physical world where you can get to know their individual quirks and subtleties and thus understand them on a superficial basis; on web forums where people constantly talk about what their favourite vidya gayem or what their favourite animu is, they really only know eachother on a superficial level. I cannot help but think that individuals who consider web forums where people haven't ever met eachother in real life more significant than keeping up with people met in real life have a shallow understanding of friendship and must be depressed underneath the surface.
This is also one of the reasons why I really hate people who take Tumblr extremely seriously and claim their followers "understand" them or whatever. Real friendship cannot develop on a place which is so inherently impersonal.
>You only interact with people who you haven't met in real life anonymously for entertainment purposes; you might share a common interest, or you may simply feel like trolling someone else, but in either case the discussion exists only to alleviate boredom
An assumption and nothing more, if anything this says more about how you view your own social relationships online than what you're implying. Yes, discussions online can be used to alleviate boredom however that doesn't mean they're useless and just for that and can't also be a mentally stimulating activity one could enjoy doing.
>Common interests are also not what friendships should form over; they are simply discussion starters. Real friendships evolve over connecting with others on the basis of their personalities and spending time with eachother in the physical world where you can get to know their individual quirks and subtleties and thus understand them on a superficial basis; on web forums where people constantly talk about what their favourite vidya gayem or what their favourite animu is, they really only know eachother on a superficial level.
Common interests is what starts friendships though, I agree that you could probably have interests with someone thats a total *crag*basket that you don't want to be around but often enough the interests you share with people is what draws you into them and its then where you either connect with there personal quirks and subtleties or find out that person is someone you don't enjoy being around. You can do one without the other but then theres always a lack of value in those relationships where you either don't like doing what the other person is doing or you can't relate to them on a personal level, and its ok to have relationships like that with others but you probably won't be connected with those type of individuals as much as the people who have both common interests and personal understanding with oneself..
> I cannot help but think that individuals who consider web forums where people haven't ever met eachother in real life more significant than keeping up with people met in real life have a shallow understanding of friendship and must be depressed underneath the surface.
Its not always possible to have a large group of friends in real life, social enviroments and individuals can differ making it challenging to downright impossible to make friends with people. Atleast online you can get the common interest part out of the way and maybe get to know people personally assuming thats your open to making friends on the internet and the community in question isn't already circlejerked into some shit you don't care for or strictly discussion.
>Real friendship cannot develop on a place which is so inherently impersonal.
Yes because people only use the internet for serious discussion only and information sharing in the holy year of our lord 2013
I'm kind've hoping you aren't too sincere about all of that but if you are, your loss I guess.
I consider myself better acquainted with the people here then with most people I meet in real life. This is partially because almost everyone who I see is either a straight up bitch or an insufferable teenage farmer douchebag who only cares about how many things he can kill within the next ten minutes.
It's pretty much the same damn thing.
The majority of society are *crag*heads.
Filter them out from the decent human beings out there, and you'll be fine.
now crump you must look upon digi as any other organized version of humanity. the history of civilization on the net parallels that of human history, half caught in darkness and ignorance and half caught in the continuation of old ways, but isolated none the less. this split occured with the fall of the web-fourm empire, similar to the rome of old. while some take the content that was popular at this split and evolve it, others refuse this content for it caused the split in the first place. we are eastern civilization, they are the west. we will meet again on common grounds some day, but that is not this day.
Facebook is for people with self-esteem issues. Personal communications and friendships -especially those on the web- should be confined to a group of about 20 tightly knit people who share a common goal or interest but differing opinions and personalities (or a bunch of screwheads like us). Any larger and the opinions differ too widely and tempers flare (or trolls and bronies begin to seep into the group). If the group is too small though, conversations don't receive enough life and the group dies.
I don't know why I said all of that, but whatever.
Facebook is primarily for keeping up with "real" or "personal" friends; those who you know and interact with in real life. You only interact with people who you haven't met in real life anonymously for entertainment purposes; you might share a common interest, or you may simply feel like trolling someone else, but in either case the discussion exists only to alleviate boredom. Common interests are also not what friendships should form over; they are simply discussion starters. Real friendships evolve over connecting with others on the basis of their personalities and spending time with eachother in the physical world where you can get to know their individual quirks and subtleties and thus understand them on a superficial basis; on web forums where people constantly talk about what their favourite vidya gayem or what their favourite animu is, they really only know eachother on a superficial level. I cannot help but think that individuals who consider web forums where people haven't ever met eachother in real life more significant than keeping up with people met in real life have a shallow understanding of friendship and must be depressed underneath the surface.
This is also one of the reasons why I really hate people who take Tumblr extremely seriously and claim their followers "understand" them or whatever. Real friendship cannot develop on a place which is so inherently impersonal.
>You only interact with people who you haven't met in real life anonymously for entertainment purposes; you might share a common interest, or you may simply feel like trolling someone else, but in either case the discussion exists only to alleviate boredom
An assumption and nothing more, if anything this says more about how you view your own social relationships online than what you're implying. Yes, discussions online can be used to alleviate boredom however that doesn't mean they're useless and just for that and can't also be a mentally stimulating activity one could enjoy doing.
>Common interests are also not what friendships should form over; they are simply discussion starters. Real friendships evolve over connecting with others on the basis of their personalities and spending time with eachother in the physical world where you can get to know their individual quirks and subtleties and thus understand them on a superficial basis; on web forums where people constantly talk about what their favourite vidya gayem or what their favourite animu is, they really only know eachother on a superficial level.
Common interests is what starts friendships though, I agree that you could probably have interests with someone thats a total *crag*basket that you don't want to be around but often enough the interests you share with people is what draws you into them and its then where you either connect with there personal quirks and subtleties or find out that person is someone you don't enjoy being around. You can do one without the other but then theres always a lack of value in those relationships where you either don't like doing what the other person is doing or you can't relate to them on a personal level, and its ok to have relationships like that with others but you probably won't be connected with those type of individuals as much as the people who have both common interests and personal understanding with oneself..
> I cannot help but think that individuals who consider web forums where people haven't ever met eachother in real life more significant than keeping up with people met in real life have a shallow understanding of friendship and must be depressed underneath the surface.
Its not always possible to have a large group of friends in real life, social enviroments and individuals can differ making it challenging to downright impossible to make friends with people. Atleast online you can get the common interest part out of the way and maybe get to know people personally assuming thats your open to making friends on the internet and the community in question isn't already circlejerked into some shit you don't care for or strictly discussion.
>Real friendship cannot develop on a place which is so inherently impersonal.
Yes because people only use the internet for serious discussion only and information sharing in the holy year of our lord 2013
I'm kind've hoping you aren't too sincere about all of that but if you are, your loss I guess.
I consider myself better acquainted with the people here then with most people I meet in real life. This is partially because almost everyone who I see is either a straight up bitch or an insufferable teenage farmer douchebag who only cares about how many things he can kill within the next ten minutes.
The majority of society are *crag*heads.
Filter them out from the decent human beings out there, and you'll be fine.
I'm not hanging out with them, they're just an unavoidable part of the city I live in.